Sometimes giving up really is the best option. On this occasion, for me, it really is.
Okay, hands up. I failed miserably on my simple eating challenge starting on Friday (day 3).
Failed miserably on Friday
I honestly think I ate 3 times more than I had planned.
Let me tell you what I think happened.
1st I got on the scales and wasn’t at all happy. I was hoping to be at 11 stone by the end of May and to be honest the scales have hardly moved this month.
WARNING. The scales aren’t always the best indicator.
I know that through my extra walking and reasonably healthy eating this month, there have been definite changes in my shape and fitness levels, people have also commented that I’m looking slimmer. My clothes are telling me I’m slimmer, yet the scales said nothing much was happening and I felt annoyed, angry… because I know I’m nowhere close to achieving my goal.
2nd – I bought a dress. A really beautiful dress for my niece’s wedding in July. And I think some crazy switch flipped (old thinking), you’ve got the dress, it fits beautifully, so no need to keep trying to lose weight.
Can any of you relate to this crazy way of thinking?
And it really is crazy to me to think like this, but as someone who works with clients every week dealing with old mindset issues blocking success, I can that this is so clearly what is happening.
You’d think that if I can spot easily what’s going on, I could swap it and stop it from happening. But you have to remember that for over 14 years, my subconscious mind told me it was safe to behave this way. It was safe for me to overeat and be overweight. So when I’m having a low point, that pull back to the false safe place kicks in.
So that was FRIDAY.
After the complete disaster that was Friday, Saturday was a complete contrast. Not because I got back into my simple meals challenge. I really didn’t but the way I felt was completely different.
My son and I went out shopping, for his outfit for my niece’s wedding. We don’t go shopping that often and I really wanted it to be a really lovely experience.
So when my son asked if we could go for a drink and cake, that’s exactly what we did. I had a chocolate brownie and thoroughly enjoyed it.
I actually ate very little on Saturday, in fact, I thought very little about food at all. I ate when I was hungry and that was it.
So whilst I didn’t stick to the challenge at all today, I feel very positive.
Plus we walked loads, which was a great bonus.
Giving up and going forward (the mind battle)
Let me tell you what’s been going on in my mind about this challenge. On one side I have a little voice in my head saying “It’s so not working for you, it’s time to move on to something different.” This makes perfect sense to me and it’s what I would be advising other people to do.
Then there’s that “You’re a failure. A BIG FAT FAILURE” voice going on. “You told all these people about the 6-day challenge, you only managed 2 days without failing. You have to stick with it, otherwise you’re an even bigger failure.”
I know this voice is not helpful for me at all and it’s that old voice and I know that one of the biggest reasons diet’s fail is because they are too restrictive and people end up feeling deprived.
So I am declaring this challenge over, for me.
It might work for you but right now, it’s not working for me.
Well, this is almost like the Universe is telling me I’ve made the right choice. My sister has just called to invite us to a BBQ.
Of course, I said yes, I absolutely love family time and I know she’ll do a lovely BBQ.
My focus will be on enjoying myself and staying mindful, especially when I’m eating.
How are you getting on
Are you getting on better than me with the simple eating challenge, or like me have you found it too restrictive?