Today I want to talk about stress and how to reduce stress in your day to day life. I’m going to be talking from a professional point of view as a life coach and EFT Master Practitioner (Emotional Freedom Techniques). I’m also going to be sharing some information about myself as someone who can easily feel very stressed.
Why I’m talking about stress in the first place
The reason I’m talking about stress is that I know the impact of stress on how we feel, how we behave and how we manage our day to day life.
As a life coach and from personal experience I already knew that stress had the power to be hugely destructive in our life, but when I trained as an EFT Master Practitioner I saw stress from a whole new level. And one thing that I learned was that most of us only really spot that we’re stressed when the stress level is really high. For example, when I’m really stressed I clench my teeth together really hard and I will wake up with aching jaws.
Most of us are dealing will low level stress to medium stress on a day to day basis and often the stress levels can get really high before we even notice. Most of us have got pretty good at ignoring signs our body send to us.
Today I want to help you become more aware of your daily stress triggers and I’ve got some really useful tips to help you reduce stress in your daily life.
Work out your stress triggers – What causes stress in your life?
I think the starting point is to try to work out what causes stress in your life? This can be hugely different for each person. Try to run through your day to day life and pinpoint your stress triggers. You may even want to keep a stress journal for a week or so to try and pinpoint what causes stress for you personally.
In my day to day life some of the things that cause me stress are…
- Being late – I know that I’m the kind of person who needs to allow extra time for journeys. If there’s a journey that I know I can do in 6 minutes (the drive to the train station), I need to allow at least 10 minutes, ideally a little more. And whilst I know that this will almost always mean we arrive a good 5 minutes early, that’s okay. It means I can do the journey without getting stressed and I allow for any delays. If for some reason we are delayed and it’s getting really close to the 10-minute mark I can feel my stress levels rise rapidly. My sister, on the other hand, is a real last minute persona and will happily push things to the very last minute and be totally relaxed. I would say this is my biggest daily stress trigger.
- Other key people in my life not planning – To a certain degree, this is one that I don’t have any control over. And again it’s a time thing for me. If other people’s plans involve me in any way and they are disorganized with regards to planning or again, leave things to the last minute to arrange things, this is a big stress trigger for me.
- Housework – When the house is cluttered. I’m not a big fan of housework and I’m quite an untidy person but the house being a mess or being in need of a good clean really stresses me out. I get edgy, jittery, bad-tempered and generally emotional.
Ease your stress triggers
Once you are aware of your triggers, you can work to try and eliminate them or reduce them. I know that I need to leave the house in plenty of time to stay calm. One of the trigger times is the morning run to the train station with my son. If he misses his train, I can drive him to college but this means missing a good hour of work time in my business, so definitely something I want to avoid. At a calm time, I sat down with my son and explained why I need to leave so early and how it makes me feel if we start running late. I do need to remind him now and again but in general, now that he understands, he makes much more of an effort to be ready on time.
With the housework, I have a cleaning plan and I’m working toward a more minimalist home that is easy to take care of.
The key people in my life now know that I need to have a plan in place at least a day before for set events.
Key questions to help you reduce stress…
- What can I do to help with this stress trigger?
- Is there something I need to ask for help with from other people?
Let’s face it, for most of us our work time takes up a big part of our daily life, so trying to reduce work stress is a good area to focus on.
Time is definitely a big thing for me. When I started my coaching business back in the late 1990’s I thought my dream business would be to have a fully booked coaching practice. I knew I wanted to work from home and focus on skype/telephone coaching. Over a few years, I built my coaching practice up and was doing well, but the busier I got with clients the more stressed I became. Over time, I realized it was the time restrictions – In 2017, I gave up coaching and now focus full-time on blogging and creating content such as downloads. This style of working suits me perfectly. I am now able to work when and where I want.
Now, I know this is not an option for many people, but what I want you to do is really think about what your stress triggers are at work and look for ways to reduce them. Maybe the noise from the office stresses you out – Could you were headphones or earplugs? Constant interruptions from other staff members. Can you start letting people know that you’ll be available to speak with them at set times but not right now? Setting boundaries are crucial. Is it that your boss regularly gives you last minute work which means you have to work late? Speak to your boss and again set boundaries. Your boss is probably totally oblivious to how this impacts your life.
Communication is big
Admitting to feeling stressed used to be something people didn’t talk about. They often didn’t even acknowledge it to themselves. But these days it’s different. I think the key thing to remember is that if you reduce your stress levels, you will be a happier person, more than likely a healthier person, a person who is easier to be around and far more able to get things done effectively and efficiently.
So, whether you need to speak to friends, family members, co-workers, a teacher or boss… know that by speaking to them and communicating what will help you to reduce stress, you will also be making their lives better.
Let people know what stresses you and how they can help.
Techniques to reduce stress
Now you’ve identified some stress trigger points and hopefully found some ways to reduce that stress and asked for support where appropriate, Now let’s look at how to reduce stress using some special exercises and techniques. I recommend that you have a go with each of the techniques. Some will be more of a match for you than others. What I will say, is give each one a good shot – Once of twice probably isn’t going to do that much.
Affirmations to help reduce stress
Affirmations are positive statements that we can use to support us in reducing stress. One of my go-to affirmations is “I am calm and relaxed.”
I am calm and relaxed is a powerful affirmation. It’s short and to the point. When I say this affirmation, I put my focus completely on what I want. The way I want to feel.
I found this fantastic post on How to use positive affirmations to manage stress from the Very Well Mind blog.
Hypnosis downloads to help with stress
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I recommend you have a really good look through the site Hypnosis Downloads – They’ve been around for a long time and they have the most amazing collection of downloads now. Have a look through and see what resonates with you personally.
They have a selection of downloads specifically focusing on stress management which is well worth having a look at.
Breathing for stress relief
Breathing is something we do automatically but when we feel stressed we are often breathing very quickly with short and shallow breaths. Spending time focusing on slow and calm breathing is incredibly powerful. One of the breathing techniques that is often recommended is the 7-11 breathing exercise – The idea is that you breathe in slowly for the count of 7 and breathe out for the count of 11.
If you’re new to this kind of thing start off with something like breathe in for the count of 5 and out for 9. The key thing is to breathe out for longer than the in breath.
More information on 7/11 breathing.
EFT for stress relief
EFT – Emotional freedom techniques is powerful for dealing with stress. As I mentioned at the start of this post, it was only when I took my training as an EFT Master Practitioner that I really understood how stressed I was and how much it can impact our lives.
I can clearly remember the session during my training. My trainer Dr. Micheal Millet asked me to do some tapping on myself to clear something that had been troubling me. I’d been using EFT for a good few years at this point, so of course, I thought I knew it all. I thought I was just going through the motions to get my qualification but I was so wrong. He got me to tap on stress first. At the time I really didn’t think I was stressed at all but what I found happened was when I tapped on the stress first, when I got to tapping on the thing that had been troubling me, I was able to get straight to the emotional block and clear it.
Silvia Hartman, who is the creator of Modern Energy Tapping and so much more says tap out the Stress Talk first. Often when we start talking about or tapping on an issue, we start off with stress talk. So we need to tap on the stress first.
I actually recommend regular – Daily if possible stress tapping and I recommend this as a daily part of your routine even if you really don’t feel stressed. If you are feeling stressed, I recommend that you make EFT stress tapping a part of your morning routine and evening routine and use it any time throughout the day that you need.
If you’re new to EFT, I recommend that you watch some of my EFT videos to get used to the tapping points and then the script below is specifically to help with releasing stress.
Stress is always a sign of blocked energy – The energy is not flowing freely. When we tap to release energy blocks and improve the energy flow, we start to lower stress levels immediately.
EFT script to reduce stress
I’d like you to use the heart and soul tapping positions which are as follows…
Start and finish by placing both hands flat on the center of the chest and take 3 deep breaths in and out.
The tapping points – Top of the head – Third eye (middle of your forehead) – Eyebrow (thickest point) – Side of the eye – Under the eye – Under nose – Under mouth – Collarbone…
Finger points (tapping the side of each finger) – Thumb – Index finger – Middle finger – Ring finger – Little finger and Karate chop point (side of the hand below little finger).
Simply tap on each of the points saying the word Stress.
You can also tap along with my Quick EFT Stress Buster session below.I encourage you to make EFT a regular part of your daily routine. You can simply tap on stress or you can use the video to help you, whichever you prefer.
Conclusion – How to reduce stress
Here’s a quick run through of everything we’ve covered in this post.
- Try to work out your stress triggers in your day to day life
- See if you can eliminate or reduce those triggers – This may involve having conversations with others who can help
- Techniques to try are affirmations, hypnosis download, breathing exercises and EFT
- Try the EFT stress buster video.
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